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- [+] Gutes Mindset
- Girls are not potential partners, they are just people, and they should be treated as such.
Hi healthy gamer community, I’m making this post because of some discussions I’ve had in the comment section of another post. It pertained to how many lonely men perceive women, and why I believe that it is an unhealthy mindset.
By the way, I’d like to think I understand what single lonely men feel like, because I was one too. So this post isn’t meant to flame or attack anyone, I just want to share my thoughts.
There is this language that I see a lot of time from men who are single and lonely when referring to girls. They will say things like: “potential girlfriend” or “looking for a mate”. I mentioned that this was wrong because it places expectation, it objectifies, and is just generally an unattractive way of thinking. It seemed like most people agreed with me, but some were confused, so I wanted to clarify things in a post.
First of all, women just do not want to be seen that way. Most girls do not enjoy being hit on, and similarly they do not enjoy being simplified down to something of an object. Even if you don’t mean to be doing this, it’s possible that you are.
You might ask, why would girls dislike this? I would love to be hit on, and be thought about as a potential mate. And that’s where I think it is super duper important to recognize that males and females do have differences. Just because your a man and you would like a certain thing, doesn’t mean a woman is going to be quite as appreciative.
Secondly, if your a horndog who starts getting excited at the sight of a women’s shoulder, I can guarantee that when you start interacting with said woman you are going to act weird. If you find that girls won’t talk to you and/or avoid you, it might be because your desperation is seeping into your interactions with them and they feel uncomfortable. And yes, humans are great at recognizing this kind of thing.
So what should you do about this? Well first of all just recognize that girls are just like any other person (50% of all people in fact). They aren’t some mythical creature whom needs a special dance in order to impress. However I understand you can’t change a mindset by snapping your fingers.
A more practical bit of advice is this: Learn to make friends, female or male. Forget about dating for now, if you meet a girl it’s because you want to be her friend not because you want to date her. The sooner you can start to see girls as people, and have normal interactions with them, the better off you will be.
TL;DR: women are people, don’t objectify them. Chasing and ogling at women is unattractive. Learn to simply be friends with women.
Vor allem das mit dem Mindset, so war es bei mir früher auch.
Ist bei mir immer noch zum Teil so.
Wie er sagt geht das leider nicht mit einem Fingerschnippen, ist aber der richtige Weg so ein Mindset versuchen zu bekommen. Denke ich